Vanilla Bean Cupcakes

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by Chris on April 1, 2012

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This was a roller coaster of a week. I performed a balanced act at work with “the writing’s on the wall” evaluation conversations and squirrely children’s behavior. Then there was a face to face reality check while attending a vigil for a former student who was fatally shot by local police. And, knowledge of three other boys arrested for an unrelated incident and charged as adults, and another young man facing life for a retaliation murder. The tragic sequence of events saddened me; I grapple(d) with the loss and wondering what is going on with these kids.

The influx of unfortunate events led me to call “the teen” every night to check on him and wish him a peaceful night sleep. I speak with him almost everyday, regardless, extra worry means extra calls.

He officially became an adult yesterday. He’s eighteen. Eighteen! Where did the time go? If someone had told me, 5 years ago, that a young kid would become an integral part of the rest of my life, I wouldn’t have believed it. Kids were never part of the plan. But, completing the Foster Care IMPACT classes to help him during a rough period, to be able to welcome him in and out of my house on good/legal accord, changed me.

I reflect about the paths I have traveled, personally, then with him in my life. I worry, much like my mom did does me, worry he will be in the wrong place at the wrong time, and how I can’t do more for him. But, I wouldn’t change a thing.

G never stayed in my home for very long, short spurts of time over the last several years. Even though he’s not with me 24/7, we keep in contact and see one another every week. I am fortunate to remain a supportive shoulder as he continues heal and replenish his hopes and dreams. I help with school work, cheer him on as his number 1 basketball fan, and step in as the “girl-boy relationship” counselor. The interesting thing is, With it all, he has probably helped me more than I have helped him.

Now? I can’t imagine life without G. Honestly, from the first moment I heard him refer to me as “ma”, I was done. “Ma, text me when you get home.” “Ma, what do you think about…” “Ma, what do I do if….” “Ma, I called you last night, early, like 10:00PM. Where were you? Are you supposed to be out that late?” And, my favorite, when asked by a friend of his about a getting a new tattoo, “No, bro, my ma said I gotta wait. So, that’s whats up.” He still listens!

Happily, his mother has made significant strides to better herself, getting the help she needs to get well, and she and I are on the same page (when it comes to G). Because of that, I have seen a lot of the “I-had-to-grow up-before-my-time” stress drain from his eyes. So, his milestone birthday was significant, a new fresh start of sorts. We celebrated. At the Prom tux fitting to dinner with friends, I couldn’t help but sit back and just watch. I am in awe of the man he became…overnight.

He morphed from a kid

to a man.

to an athlete

to young man who knows I am on his side

to a man that is ready to take on the next chapter.

The teen heads to Orlando this week with a few guys from his basketball team. He’s so excited to play around in the Park. So, in the spirit of Disney World, “where memories begin”, I thought these Minnie Mouse cupcakes I made for a toddler’s birthday would fit in well.

Happy birthday, my favorite and most beautiful boy young man.

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DessertForTwo April 1, 2012 at 11:35 AM

Awww, I loved reading this story. I’ve always been in awe of you & how much you help kids. When you said “he’s helped me more than I’ve helped him,” my heart melted. Isn’t that the way good deeds work? Life is grand.

I wish your teen, I mean your MAN, the best of luck! Is it too much to ask to see prom photos? 😉

pam April 1, 2012 at 10:19 PM

What a blessing you have been for him! and he for you :)

pinkpolkadot April 2, 2012 at 9:13 AM

How wonderful! Life has its own ideas with us!

I love the cupcakes!

Martha T April 2, 2012 at 9:32 AM

Thank you for sharing this story. G is very lucky to have you in his life and, as a mom who lost her son at 15, I know how blessed you are to have him. :)

The recipe sounds great too.

Kate April 2, 2012 at 8:29 PM

Happy Birthday to G! I thought the cupcakes were going to be for him, and I was a bit curious about what 18 year old man would request Minnie Mouse cupcakes!

Robert Richards Recipes April 5, 2012 at 2:44 PM

What a sweet story! Also, thanks for the recipe – I will try it out this weekend. 😉

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